la vida loca

I went and saw the movie "Premonition" today and wow. I won't give anything away, but I really liked it, though at the end I had tears on my cheeks. I just think it's nice when you go to a movie and leave with a new found appreciation for little things (or big things) in life. The movie pointed out how important family and loved ones are to all of us. Call me silly or call me intellectual, I think those kinds of movies should be more popular than they usually are.

Something recent. I went into Mexico a couple of weekends ago and it was a lot more fun going in with some friends. Mark and I might just be boring, but this time we walked around and Rachael knew where to find some really nasty candy. I thought I'd like it (because I like most anything). What the candy was, was a hard piece of mango candy (kind of like a mishapen jollyrancher), and it had chili powder ALL over it... even on the stick! I thought it was going to be really tasty, but I was sorely disappointed. Sorry Rachael, because you're probably reading this!! But I think I could learn to like it, but it was just too much to try any longer - I had to throw it away. Mark was swearing that I wouldn't get any kisses for the rest of the day, I don't blame him!

Our little Mexico day was a lot of fun with good food. We ate at this place called "Manuel's". From the outside it looks a little different than the rest of Mexico - like they took a couple more minutes to plan what it looked like. Then you walk in and you're kind of just blown away. It's very pretty inside - like the inside of an HGTV makeover restaurant. It has an intricate ceiling of wooden beams with orange faux finish painting where the beams create squares. Then on the back wall it's slate brick with glass light votives that hold little shimery candles. It looks so fancy with the waiters in button up shirts, black aprons and bowties that you're SHOCKED with the food is only $3.00 a plate. It's quite nice. We were able to find 30 oz. bottles of Vanilla that are like 50% alcohol - you know, the purest of pure vanilla and when we ask if it DOES have alcohol, the lady looks straight at as and says, "no." LIAR! But it was really funny, so no hard feelings. Only in Mexico! Adios.

yay for weddings!

This week has been pretty great - being home and all. I spoiled myself with shopping and music stores! I've gotten to see family, visit the hotels, get in touch with long lost friends and miss Mark. Whenever I go driving (my dad's been lending me his car since they've been out of town) is when I think of subjects to write about for my blog, but then when I come to write one I can't remember what it was about! So I guess I'll just go on typing and what comes out will be what comes out! haha

Yesterday night I got to hang out with Megan. She's getting married on Saturday and she thought she'd hang out with me one last time before she does. We were talking and she was asking about what's the greatest and worst things about marriage. So it got me thinking and I came up with a couple things. One great thing is that you're over dating! You never have to worry about dating again!!! It's great that you're with your best friend 24/7; well...i guess if they don't have jobs. ;) ha Then I said something that sounded weird when i said it, but I said, "you get to be that stalker you always wanted to be!!" HAHA but that's not what I meant really. What I meant by that was: You know how when you're dating someone you sometimes wonder 'why aren't they calling me? Where are they? I hope he's thinking of me..." BUT when you're married there's that trust factor that isn't always 100% when you date. With Mark I trust him 100% so i never have to worry where he is or who he's with. What I meant by "You get to be that stalker you always wanted to be!!" was that when you get married, you feel comfortable- there's no need for worry or stress. Then for the 'bad' things of marriage was ... well I could only think of something that is bad for any relationship; disappointment. When we were growing up we didn't want to disappoint our parents, and the same goes for marriage. You feel awful when you disappoint your spouse. But thank goodness it rarely happens - I have yet to disappoint Mark; that is because we understand each other and what does disappoint the other. We knowing each other so well we know how NOT to disappoint each other. :o) It's great!!

So that's my little blog on Marriage today. Sorry it wasn't much! But I owed Mauri another Blog to read.

communicating gratitude

When someone asks you for advice, and they don't take it, do you ever wonder if they ever even considered it? Someone recently asked me for advice (twice) and she didn't follow through either time... at least not that I know of yet. Both times were regarding the same thing. I told her, "It seems like you know what you need to do, you're just trying to convince yourself to do it." Can't we all relate to this girl I gave advice to? It seems to me that we have all, at one moment or another, pushed something off for some reason. I could be talking about cutting hair, homework, telling someone the truth, or breaking up with someone. I remember when I dated before Mark, I knew if 'it was going to work' the moment I'd wake up after the first date. Only twice did I feel comfortable the morning after a first date. I'm just using this as an example to point out that no matter what we know we have to do, we always have a way of knowing for ourselves. I knew 'it wasn't going to work' if I woke up sick to my stomach because I was sick with worry. That was how I knew if the guy was good for me or not.

If you know you need an extra push in the right direction, usually you seek someone's advice, right? This girl who asked me for advice would not have come to me a second time if she didn't know what she needed to do. I don't think it has anything to do with lack of conscience because she has other people telling her what she should do; she just is pulling back like a donkey does when you tell it to go somewhere. Maybe she has good reason to, maybe she doesn't. But she knows what needs to happen.

Recently, I have been trying to be a better communicator. I have been trying to fluff-down what I tell people and just be more straight forward. I have been trying to communicate better with Mark, better with my sister, better with my friends. I sort of thought this blogging thing would possibly help, so we'll see. I owe this to Mauri - :) so thanks for pushing me in the right direction with me and my communication..you got me blogging!

I think gratitude is uderrrated. People say 'oh thanks' when really they need to scream "THANK YOU" and run to that person and sqeeze them like a bear. I think that when we are trying to be sincere about our thank yous, we need to think outside the box; the words 'thank you' have been over used and are too common place now. We need to act on the thank yous we give to people for their help. Hopefully I can better communicate my thank yous to everyone I owe. Perhaps this girl will realize that what she just needs to do is say thank you to the life she's been given and realize that she really doesn't have it all that bad. We all owe a thank you to someone somewhere.

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